Tuesday, May 01, 2007

OCD ...Obsessive Compulsive Dickhead

It was a blind date. Of course, I know not all those end badly but this one really was bad.

The guy was a major obsessive compulsive disorder poster child. He told me he had a hard time dating because no one was good enough for him. I laughed and he looked at me seriously and said "Im serious, no one is good enough" Okay, no pressure there....

When I started to get into his pick up for our date, he put a towel down on the seat... but I didnt think too much of it because he was sitting on a towel too and it was a very nice truck. But when I said something about it, he said something like "My friends think Im crazy, but look. Your arm is touching the arm rest and I dont know where your arm has been and I haven't said anything about it"... Needless to say I jerked my arm off the arm rest. Oh boy, we were just getting started.

We went to a restaurant.... what a mistake. The guy sent his glass of water back 3 times and his silverware twice. I felt so sorry for the waiter. But I was feeling awfully sorry for myself because I hadnt thought of a way out of this date or a painful way to kill my friend who had set us up.

I did go home early, made up a headache and never saw him again. He did call me after, but I told him it wasn't going to work out. With me being such a slob and all....

5 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Ah, a woman with common sense and gusto! Dumped the OCD immediately, why mess around. It definitely wasn't going to get better from there -- hell, that was just the tip of the iceberg. Probably would've required you to scrub in Lysol for ten minutes before entering his apartment.

Sally B said...

Thank you, I really thought I had met the biggest OCD but clearly you have gone one better. Well done for dumping him so quickly.

Charnell said...

This post kinda makes me sad...

I am a girl who suffers from OCD, and I battle with it everyday (even as I write). Even though people I meet notice it and ask (and I tell them), I have no trouble dating or being in long relationships. Why? Sure, people think I'm weird but they like me for ...me

I feel your date post was very superficial, and with such an attitude might be seeing more blind-dates for a very long time, and only that

I also don't see what made him such a dickhead. Because he couldn't control something? We all have things we can't control. Maybe if you'd imagine yourself in his situation, you might have been able to look beyond his DISORDER, and actually seen a person

Sorry, but it made me kind of angry (and hurt). Are we all just dickheads now? That's a nice mind-numbing perspective

Anon said...

As a follow-up to Charnell I thought I'd mention that I dated a girl with OCD/Tourettes for a while (they are commonly co-indicators). It got a lot worse when she was nervous, as one might well be on a first (blind) date. She had developed, unlike this chap, a variety of coping mechanisms for it such as turning her compulsions into spontaneous singing and then passing it off as being free spirited. Over time I learned to see through the obfuscations (e.g. she would mimic people compulsively and then pretend she was doing it as a joke). It turned out she'd been psychologically abused (there's not really another word for it) by her father for her condition, ordering her not to tic for example and telling her off when she did (he thought he was helping; he wasn't). She also had problems in the bedroom which are similarly co-occuring with nervous disorders but I'm going to politely pass over. As she began to feel more secure around me her ticcing got less and less.

She eventually dumped me because she felt I liked her more than she liked me. Fair enough. She was largely using me to feel normal again after having been dumped by a semi-serious boyfriend for being 'weird' and 'frigid'. My point is that you should try and see past the condition because quite often the person underneath is a wonderful human being who's had quite a hard time of it (and sometimes they're a cruel heartless monster but... you know what I mean).

If you'd like to challenge yourself you should get a hold of a copy of Passing for Normal by Amy Wilensky which explains a lot about how it feels to live with (in Amy's case, fairly extreme) tourettes and OCD.